Why You’re Attracted to Who You’re Attracted To Romantic love is supposed to be about personal connection, individual choice, soul mates recognizing each other across a crowded room. Schopenhauer thought this was complete nonsense. Sexual attraction is not about you at all. It is the will of the species working through you, using your consciousness as a tool to produce offspring with specific genetic combinations. When you fall in love, you think you are choosing based on personal preference, but you are actually being manipulated by biological imperatives you do not consciously understand. The person who seems uniquely attractive to...